Welp, found out today that this cycle has been canceled because our Donor came back as a carrier for one of the genetic diseases they screen for. Therefore, this disqualifies her from being an egg donor.My first question...why did they let her in the pool without testing her first?? Welp, all of the genetic testing is expensive (out of our pockets) and they don't run those tests until the donor is picked. It would be a waste of money for our clinic to pay out of pocket for all of the genetic testing when there is a chance a lot of the donors never get picked.
The only information she gave me was that it would most likely affect my child if it was a boy. I'm guessing she was probably a carrier for Hemophilia or Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy because those are the most common x-linked recessive disorders.
My nurse was as bummed as I was...however, I'm glad that they are so strict with screening and caught it. So, cute little girl that looked exactly like me as a baby is out of this ball game!
She said gave us a new password to log on to the donor pool again so that we can pick another. I am to stay on the pill so she can keep control of my cycle. I'm still keeping my appointment in Charleston on Monday to have all of our testing done (sonohystogram/labs/consents). If we pick another Primary position, then we have to wait for another girl to pick that donor too. If we pick a Secondary, then we can keep the same momentum and hopefully stay on track. It would throw the dates off a little bit by having to test a new girl and get cycles synced, but shouldn't make too big of a difference. Our nurse said that if she's not mistaken, our second pick is still waiting on a secondary. That would make it easier just to go in and submit her as our first.
The problem with going Secondary is that we could be dropped if she doesn't produce enough and the Primary would get all of the eggs. I asked her about this and she said that she only sees Secondaries get dropped about 5% of the time.
As Andy and Jessica luck would have it, we went to log on and the site keeps telling me that our username and password are invalid. My clinic is closed. So, I'm writing this blog post instead of combing through donors. I guess I will have to call her first thing in the morning to get it straightened out.
I'm not upset....we didn't even expect to do this until May-June anyway. We have been waiting 6 years, so what's another month anyway?!? Delays and the waiting game are what define infertility treatments and I'm all too familiar with that. The only thing it messes up is the time I already submitted off work, and that it might interfere with other coworker's vacation time. I can't worry about that though. This is my priority and I need to stop putting my life on hold for work!
Welp, I'm trusting in God and keeping the Faith that it will all work out in the end. It has to! It's just a little bump in the road. Our Christmas miracle will just have to be a Valentine's miracle! Or maybe a St. Patty's Day miracle. I could give birth and then drink some green beer. Fawesome.


14 comments:
Oh what a crapper! I am so sorry!! Hang in there - thinking of you~
UGH, so sorry about this. If you remember, my first donor backed out the weekend before starting stims and it was awful. But, we did pick a new one right away and then the pain of that disappointment, got easier. Hoping you get back on track sooner than later.
errrrrrr :( (((hugs)))
Ahh. Sorry the cycle got canceled and the donor is a no go :(
"Delays and the waiting game are what define infertility treatment"... Which is EXACTLY why our RE's should prescribe Lithium with our BCP's.
Sorry to hear about your donor falling through, but I do agree that its a blessing that your clinic has such stringent restrictions.
Hang in there...
Ugh Jessica and Andy! Me and my Mr. are so annoyed for you two as well. But I love your spirit and your attitude. Take care.
that is surprising they didn't do the testing up front for the donors. i think you have a great outlook on things- hang in there!
just saying hi as a new follower. we are considering donor eggs in the future (just too broke right now after a billion ivf attempts), so i'm looking forward to following your journey.
I hope this setback is a tiny speed bump on your road to your DE baby! So sorry you're cancelled but maybe another perfect donor will pop up soon!
My brain just went, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooo". I'm so sorry!
Ugh! I am thankful that they screen, but it sucks that you had to foot the bill and get the bad news.
IF is the epitome for the waiting game. Hurry up and wait for this and for that.
Hang in there.. I have hope that the right donor is right around the corner for you.
I'm praying for your continued strength! love ya, Ronda
Craptastic! Hang in there girl, praying hard for you and Andy, as always!!!
Thanks again everyone:)
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