"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankrolls smaller, homes happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten and the future worth living for." ~Unknown
I came across the following article by another blogger and it really hit home. She gives advice on how to handle us infertiles at our best and at our worst. Sadly, our entire situation has negatively impacted some relationships/friendships because people just don't know what to say or how to act. It's just very hard to understand when you are an outsider looking in...some people wish that they could help, while others minimize our problem and look at it like it's not a big deal. I agree that infertility is taboo and talking about it makes people very uncomfortable, so I'm glad that I started this blog! It has definitely helped me to be more open and get everything off my chest, and hopefully shed some light for our friends and family instead of shutting them out. If you are still here and reading our blog, then we thank you from the bottom of our hearts! We're so grateful to have loyal friends and family that really care!
I would put myself in the "long term/tricky beast" category at this point, haha! Unfortunately, I have been there for awhile now. I'm learning to handle it a little better now, but I still have my bad days...usually when my period comes and I realize we've failed yet another month. Or when I log onto facebook and see nothing but pregnancy announcements. And pregnancy tickers. And cute little happy family pics. Or when I'm driving behing somebody that has a stick figure family on the back window of their car. Lol. You get the gist! Maybe I will progress to the "older timers" once we get some answers and have closure. Just a heads up...she drops an "F" bomb in the article. She's classy just like me! Enjoy, and let me know what you think about it!
8 comments:
We are hitting 5 years too...thanks for laying it out there for me to read...makes me want to hang myself (lol, so kidding!)
I hope you don't mind, but I'm stealing that quote and putting it on my blog because it made me smile! :)
Oh Jess, you hit this right on. I don't know how I would have survived the other night had I not called you...I have so many friends around me but they just don't get it. Hearing, you will have your turn or it isn't your time makes my heart break because it is a cop out answer. I think every infertile can say they lost a friendship or two.
Great article...and please know, you can call or text me anytime because I LOOOOVE ME SOME REDNECK!
I read this article a long time ago, and every word of it still rings true for me. Thank you for posting it. I might just have to set up a link on my blog for it.
I just hate how much IF has impacted our friendships. We have one couple that were close friends of our who just totally don't get it. (pg on the first try, baby born in Jan 2010). I am seriously contemplating giving them this article.
Hang in there, at least we have eachother.
I seem to remember not talking about it much from the beginning so alot of people had no idea what we were going through. What really got me were people who would say," When are you going to have a baby? What are you waiting for?" I would just smile and say, "Maybe one day!" Hard, nonetheless!
That was me above! I keep forgetting to sign my name! Lol!
Love, Aunt M
We are only hitting the two year mark, but it feels like five. Keep up the faith. {{HUGS}}
OMG thank you for posting that commercial! That's one of my all time favorites!
I guess happy anniversary? I'm headed up on my six year anniversary of ttc this summer.
I posted something similar to that on my blog from the RESOLVE website. And yet, still the things people say. DH and I are at the 2 year mark, just really diving into treatments. Well, saving for them anyway. Thanks for posting this. Good luck.
Thanks for commenting and following my blog! I am now following you back. I'm so sorry for your loss and for all of these painful years of TTC...five years. We are coming up on two now.
I love the "How to be good friends with an infertile" post you linked to. So very true.
Hugs to you. Hope you had a great Easter.
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